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<li class="level2"><div class="li"><a href="#social_thinking">Social Thinking</a></div>
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<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#my_questions">My Questions</a></div></li>
<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#ch_1">Ch 1</a></div></li>
<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#ch_8_levels_of_friendship">Ch. 8 Levels of Friendship</a></div></li>
<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#ch_11_i_like_being_alone">Ch. 11 I Like Being Alone!</a></div></li>
<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#ch_12_hooking_updating">Ch. 12 Hooking Up / Dating</a></div></li>
<li class="level3"><div class="li"><a href="#ch_13">Ch. 13</a></div></li>
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<h2 class="sectionedit1" id="social_thinking">Social Thinking</h2>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> Some people seem to have this “social thinking” trait built in! Most just have to work at it.</div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit2" id="my_questions">My Questions</h3>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> Why do friendships/relationships take work? What do people mean when they say that?</div>
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Do I have to maintain friendships with a lot of people? Why not just my friends from school or people with similar interests and focus on life? <em>I feel really guilty about this!</em>
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<li class="level1 node"><div class="li"> I think it'd be good / okay to be a <strong>leader</strong> in doing things that you enjoy doing and in trying new things that you haven't done before. <em>I.E.: Be selfish in your time/interests, and only help when people ask for help and it's your skill.</em></div>
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<li class="level2"><div class="li"> Jon Wei: The president of his ministry…Cross <Seekers>? says he decided to specialize in one or two things. To really go deep in them.</div>
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<h5 id="counterexamples">Counterexamples</h5>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> “Jesus calls us to help others”. Does that mean all the time?!?!</div>
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<li class="level1 node"><div class="li"> Julia suggests helping those with brain diseases. There's no smile, no response back. They <strong>really</strong> don't have anything to give back to you! It's seems dumb until you're in that situation. However, I'd almost rather die in that situation. </div>
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<li class="level2"><div class="li"> <em>I'm still not sure why she said that.</em></div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit3" id="ch_1">Ch 1</h3>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> Apparently it's weird to pick yourself in areas that people aren't used to seeing “in public”. <em>Hmm..maybe society should change?</em></div>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> If you do things that people expect, then they'll think better of you. If you do things that are unexpected, that usually makes them have uncomfortable or weird emotions. People don't think you are weird, but the way you act might be weird.</div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit4" id="ch_8_levels_of_friendship">Ch. 8 Levels of Friendship</h3>
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Most of the guys in the groups weren't really taking any action themselves to help themselves move to different levels of friends. They were <strong>sad or frustrated</strong> because they were <strong>waiting for others to come to them</strong>. </div></blockquote>
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* <em>I sort of have the opposite problem. It's not that I have junk to hide from others, but I enjoy learning / making things more than going out of my way to check on people all the time / not have fruitful conversations</em>. This will hopefully change over time.
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> However, I really enjoyed being able to care about Julia and receiving care from her. The really awkward conversations were tough though.</div>
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<li class="level2"><div class="li"> I don't think I've ever gone out of my way to be friends with people I didn't think I could learn from. Additionally, I don't ask about how they are doing a lot, because it takes additional effort to commit to care and I don't have a lot of energy right now.</div>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> Friendship is remarkable. It makes us all feel a bit better about ourselves. However, friendships require work on everyone's part ot last over time. But the rewards are definitely worth the effort! </div>
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<li class="level2"><div class="li"> Hmm…what were the benefits again?</div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit5" id="ch_11_i_like_being_alone">Ch. 11 I Like Being Alone!</h3>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> Some alone time is good, but you will keep descending into a cave of despair/depression if you don't find some people to interact with. </div>
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<li class="level1 node"><div class="li"> You don't develop connections with other people, and ultimately that doesn't feel good. <strong>You might just have to take our word on this</strong> </div>
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<li class="level2"><div class="li"> <em>Feels pretty hand-wavy</em> <img src="/lib/images/smileys/icon_smile.gif" class="icon" alt=":-)" /></div>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> <em>I think I want to get more friends that enjoy research like I do. Maybe bond with school friends / Al more. </em></div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit6" id="ch_12_hooking_updating">Ch. 12 Hooking Up / Dating</h3>
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<li class="level1"><div class="li"> <em>Seems very vague and unclear and loose morally chapter and a lot of stuff I don't agree with. “Some people <strong>still</strong> are waiting until marriage until having sex”</em></div>
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<h3 class="sectionedit7" id="ch_13">Ch. 13</h3>
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