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[hughcars]

In some macos github action builds:

[build-and-test-macos (gcc, openmpi, openblas, static, int64, openmp, superlu, arpack)](https://github.com/awslabs/palace/actions/runs/11825573260/job/32994205616#step:4:17)
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Looks like the github action runners macos-latest-xl might've been moved to macos-latest-large. Should probably add an m1 build to the CI.